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Asexual – a person who feels little or no sexual desire or attraction (which is different from celibacy – which is abstention from sex). Sometimes abbreviated to “ace.”
Bear – a large, hairy man.
Bisexual – someone who is attracted to people of both their own gender and another gender.
Cisgender – a person who is not transgender is “cis” ie they identify with the gender they were assigned at birth.
Cross dresser – a person who dresses in the clothing usually associated with another gender (but is not necessarily gay).
Drag queen – a man who dresses as a woman for entertainment, usually an exaggerated expression of femininity. Not to be confused with cross dressing or a person who is transgender.
Femme – someone who identifies as feminine, either physically, mentally, or emotionally (often used to describe a feminine-presenting queer woman).
Fluid – a person whose gender or sexual identity may shift over time.
Friend of Dorothy’s – a gay man (referring to gay icon Judy Garland).
Gay – most commonly used to refer to men who are attracted to other men, but also used by some lesbians. Also: happy.
Intersex – someone born with a sexual anatomy that doesn’t fit the typical definitions of female or male.
Lesbian – a woman who is attracted to other women.
Non-binary – anyone whose identity doesn’t fit neatly into the categories of “man” or “woman,” or “male” or “female.”
Otter – A thin or athletic man, who also tends to be hairy (an extended part of the bear community).
Pansexual – anyone who is attracted to people of all gender identities.
Polyamorous – people who have multiple, consensual, non-monogamous relationships.
Queer – an umbrella term that refers to anyone who isn’t straight. Historically used as a derogatory term, not everyone embraces its use.
Twink – a slender, young gay man.
Transgender – someone whose gender identity differs from the gender they were assigned at birth. Not all non-binary people identify as transgender, and some who have transitioned choose to identify as simply a “man” or “woman.”